Hi sweet friend,
I’m so glad you’re here. Whether you’ve been reading for a while or just recently found this space, I want to share something important about the direction I’m sensing for this blog.
Over the past few weeks, the Lord has been gently inviting me into a slower rhythm—a season of being intentional, quiet, and deeply present.
Not because anything is wrong. Not because I’m walking away from writing or teaching.
But because I believe He’s asking me to step back from regular content creation for now so that I can focus more fully on becoming the woman He wants me to be—not just the one who teaches others how to be.
I want to be deeply rooted in Him. I want to be the wife my husband needs me to be, and the mom that God has created me to be for my children.
I want to serve well in the in-person relationships and ministry opportunities He’s already entrusted to me. And I want to listen more than I speak for a little while.
So what does that mean here?
It means I won’t be publishing blog posts on a regular schedule for now.
I may still share things here and there as the Lord leads—especially if I feel called to speak into something specific. But I’m laying down the pressure to keep up with consistent posting, and choosing instead to abide, trust, and follow His pace.
If you’ve been blessed by this space in the past, thank you. Truly. It’s a joy and honor to serve. That hasn’t changed.
I’m still here—and still praying that everything I’ve written, and anything I may write in the future, always points you back to the Word, back to truth, and back to the One who never changes.
Please know that one of my greatest passions is guiding wives to learn how to study God's Word independently, so they are equipped for every season of marriage and life. If you need help with Bible study, if you need prayer, or if you just need some encouragement, please don't hesitate even a moment to reach out to me.
I'm still here, and I still want to walk alongside you.
With peace and purpose,
Melissa 💕
Melissa 💕
If you find yourself overthinking every decision—afraid that you're always one wrong move from ruining everything—I just want to gently say:
You’re not alone.
You’re not alone.
I talk to so many women who feel stuck in their own heads, second-guessing their choices. The stakes feel high.
Should I homeschool or send them to school?
Should we move or stay?
Is this opportunity from God—or am I just being selfish?
You want to get it right. You want to honor God.
And that’s a good thing.
But when that desire turns into fear—fear of failure, fear of getting it wrong, fear of disappointing someone—you're not walking in freedom anymore.
You're walking in bondage dressed up as “obedience.”
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” — 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV)
Sweet friend, God isn’t waiting for you to trip.
He’s not hiding the “right” answer behind Door #3.
In fact, most of the time, the answers we need (or the criteria we need to help us make the right decisions) are right there in Scripture for us - we just have to be willing to diligently study the wise counsel God has already given us.
He’s a generous Father who leads you.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” — James 1:5
🌿 What’s Really Under the Fear?
Let’s be honest for a second.
Sometimes, the fear of making the wrong decision is rooted in pride.
That might sound harsh—but it’s worth sitting with.
You think:
- I should be able to get this right.
- I don’t want to disappoint anyone.
- What if I mess up God’s plan?
But those thoughts reveal something deeper:
A belief that you have to be perfect... because maybe you don't believe God is.
“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” — Proverbs 16:9
You don’t need to have all the answers.
You need a heart that says:
“Lord, I want to follow You—even if I take a shaky first step.”
🪞What Faithful Decision-Making Looks Like
So if not fear or perfectionism… what does honoring God in our decisions actually look like?
Here’s what I encourage women to walk through:
1. Pray first.
Before the research. Before the social media polls. Before the phone calls.
Sit with the Lord.
“God, I want to honor You. Would You guide me?”
He is not silent.
He is not hiding.
He promises to lead those who seek Him.
2. Seek your husband’s counsel.
If you’re married, this is essential.
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church...” — Ephesians 5:22–23
Your husband isn’t just a sounding board—he’s the God-ordained head of your home. God holds him responsible for the well-being of your family. That’s weighty. And it’s protective.
Invite his insight. Share your heart. Honor his leadership.
If he gives you freedom to decide—praise God. Walk in it.
But what if he makes a final call that’s different from what you wanted?
That’s where submission becomes obedience to the Lord—not just agreement with your husband.
And if that feels hard or frustrating—ask yourself:
Is it truly about honoring God… or just keeping control?
3. Seek wise, godly counsel.
Go beyond the internet.
Ask older women of faith. Ask women who know the Word, not just your situation.
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” — Proverbs 11:14
4. Check your motive.
Is the choice you are making because of:
- Fear of man?
- Desire for control?
- Comfort?
Or...
Is this aligned with biblical values, God’s Word, and the convictions He’s been stirring in my heart?
5. Look for peace—not ease.
Peace doesn’t always feel “easy.”
It might still feel scary, uncertain, or uncomfortable.
But it won’t feel frantic, pressured, or panicked.
“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts...” — Colossians 3:15
When you feel that settled, Spirit-filled calm—even if it’s hard—that’s often your green light.
But a word of caution:
While emotions can be a gift from God, they should never be your final decision-maker.
Let the Word guide your choices—not just your feelings.
6. Make the decision.
Take one step forward.
Even a small one.
God leads people who are moving—not stuck in fear.
He won't force a parked car.
He doesn’t demand perfection. He desires surrender.
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” — Psalm 119:105
He gives you enough light for the next step—not the entire map. HE knows the entire future; you don't have to.
🌸 A Word of Reassurance
Here’s a quote I love from A.W. Tozer:
“The man or woman who is wholly or joyously surrendered to Christ can’t make a wrong decision. Because a heart that is truly yielded to God’s will won’t deliberately choose rebellion.”
If your heart is surrendered, if you’re actively seeking Him, and if you’re willing to obey—God’s not going to let you miss it.
Even if you make the “less ideal” choice, God is still sovereign.
“We know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” — Romans 8:28
He will redirect you if He wants to.
He can use the detours.
He can work with imperfect choices made in faith.
📝 A Gentle Exercise to Try Today
If you’re feeling stuck or anxious, here’s something simple you can do:
- Write down the decision that’s weighing on you.
- Ask God—out loud or in writing—for wisdom.
- Bring it to your husband. Hear his thoughts with humility and an open mind.
- Reach out to a godly mentor or older woman in the faith.
- Write down any motives you’re noticing in your heart.
- Ask the Lord to help you discern His will and align your desires with His.
- Then take one step. Just one.
You are not failing.
You are not behind.
You are being built—into a woman who trusts God, even in the fog.
You don’t have to be perfect.
You just have to be faithful.
